The blurb on the cover of The Four
Day Win, by Martha Beck, summarizes the point of her book:
“science-based thought and behavior strategies that will enable you
to stay on a healthy eating program...forever.”
As cheesy and punny as the subtitle, “end your diet war and achieve
thinner peace,” may be, this is one of the most helpful diet books
I've ever read. What the Drs. Eades did with sound nutritional
information and food help, Martha Beck does with mental strategies
for permanent thinness.
The title comes
from Beck's observation that when she can get people to try anything
consistently for four days, an internal barrier seems to fall. The
new behavior begins to feel normal. She notices other “rules of
four”: the stock market only closes at Thanksgiving for three and a
half days, because they don't like to keep the market closed for four
days; we have common terms for today, tomorrow, the day after
tomorrow – a three-day period – but the fourth day is merely “the
future”. For dieters, four days is usually the point where you
begin to get rewards, seeing the first noticeable changes in your
body. Thus, the book is divided into “four day wins” –
exercises you do for four days, training the brain into a pattern of
action.
I think, all too
often, dieters plunge into strict regimes thinking they only need to
change behavior, whether they're counting calories, carbs, or fat
grams. They see results – for a while. Then, and this has happened
to me multiple times, you feel so constrained in food choices that
you break out and eat every “illegal” food you can. Some people
justify this as a “carb-up” or a high-cal day to keep the
metabolism high. Others call it a cheat, and go back to following the
rules, until the rules become unbearable again.
Beck breaks down
the perpetual dieter into two main personalities: the Dictator and
the Wild Child. The Dictator is the one who keeps you on the straight
and narrow, prodding you out of bed to get to the gym, denying all
those tempting foods and reminding you of that scale verdict the
following morning. The Wild Child, just waiting to bust out and EAT,
waits until you're tired, or you had a terrible day, or you left it
too long between meals and feel starving..and that's when all hell
breaks loose.
OK, so when I first
started reading this, I found it hokey and silly. It reeked of
psychobabble, and I could feel my bullshit detectors pricking up. I
decided to stop being so arrogant and give it a chance.
I was pleasantly
surprised. Each chapter of The Four Day Win presents a new
study, sometimes a case study with one patient's story, others are
larger studies on brain chemistry and the links to behavior. Beck
then talks about the ways we can use these studies to change our own
behavior, specifically, in the realm of dieting.
Many of the first
strategies are about getting back in touch with your body. Lots of
long-term dieters have learned to ignore their bodies – after all,
when your body tells you it's hungry, you can't actually listen,
right? Beck teaches you ways to listen again, because, as she rightly
points out, you can't ignore your body forever. You might not be
physically hungry, but just feel mentally deprived by your limited
food choices (I think this may be more accurate for low-carbers,
especially those who don't experiment in the kitchen).
The book is all
about becoming “authentically thin”. Rather than feeling like
you're hanging on with your fingernails, two bites away from falling
back into old eating habits or just stuffing your face, you access a
place of peace, secure in the knowledge that you can be permanently
thin. Beck describes this as being “the Watcher”. You step back,
you listen to competing urges and you make the choice.
I like this
approach for the kinder, gentler manner in which you approach your
body. Many others have said it before me, but weight loss from a
place of self-hatred and disgust won't stick. You might get
jumpstarted that way – you might even lose a bunch of weight that
way, but trust me, you are not going to stay skinny that way. And you
definitely won't be happy.
I've been trying
the exercises in The Four Day Win this week. I'm still on the
ones at the beginning of the book, which are mainly about listening
to your body, recognizing hunger levels, differentiating between
emotional and physical hunger and identifying physical manifestations
of stress. All of these strategies are supposed to help you do the
mental work necessary to sustain any dietary changes.
I didn't change my
food plan. I blushingly admit to skipping the gym this entire week. I
just worked through the suggested “wins”. And I lost three pounds
– down to my lowest weight yet on this journey.
I'll keep you
posted on my progress through the rest of the exercises, but so far,
this one's a winner at making me thinner! (Sorry...couldn't resist!)
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